The world needs holidays. They’re a time for us to kick back and relax with our loved ones. As Ferris Bueller said, “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” Holidays are our way to stop and look around.
This is only semi-true for Valentine’s Day. It’s love’s answer to Thanksgiving and Christmas. It is a time to celebrate and give thanks and presents in celebration to those who believe in a thing called love. Nothing could possibly be wrong with that, right?
The Hallmarkization of the holiday presents a big issue for new couples, most notably men. The man who has just entered a relationship is posed with the difficult task of presenting a gift that doesn’t come across as cheap but also doesn’t say “hey I want to marry you,” especially if this is a new romance. Needless to say, Valentine’s Day can be scary.
Girls aren’t exactly as helpful as they could be either. I’m a firm believer in the notion that chivalry is alive and well, but ladies need to throw a bone if the situation calls for it. If you’ve only been going out for a little while, it might not be such a bad idea to let your significant other know that he doesn’t need to go to Jared. People do have anniversaries and those at least signify that a full year has gone by. That’s something worth celebrating.
Don’t get me wrong, I do believe in the concept of Valentine’s Day. I look forward to the day where I can think of something that will top a John Hughes 80s movie. I just don’t want Valentine’s Day to take couple to places they’ve never been before if their uncomfortable with it. Who wants their relationship destroyed by a naked baby holding a weapon?
So if you’re newly committed, I encourage you to sit down with your other half and discuss the your Valentine’s Day plans. Go out to dinner (perhaps the famed Bluestone Bistro) and let the vibes take it from there. And don’t eat all the caramels out of the Whitman’s Sampler.