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The Real Mean Girls of Boston College

Raise your hand if you have ever felt personally victimized by the BC Fashion Police.

Or by another Twitter account, or someone’s Facebook.

Or someone else, in real life, up close and personal.

To be honest, guys, I’m ashamed. I am embarrassed for my gender, for my age group, because of college-age kids— particularly girls— who think they can get away with being catty and shallow, online or otherwise. url

I won’t mince words here. For the past few months, a few individuals here at BC have taken to Twitter to talk about me. Only one of them actually used my name, but it didn’t take too long to figure out who the others were referring to. I can’t be sure of their intentions, but I’m sure they’re not notifying all their followers when they spot me at Lower or in the Walsh elevator out of respect.

I’ve taken action and asked them to stop, but really, I shouldn’t have to. Nobody should. People who get picked on shouldn’t have to tell their offenders to bug off, because immature online actions like those shouldn’t exist outside of high school. They shouldn’t exist at a top-50 Jesuit university founded on the ideals of being a whole person and living to help others.

I mean, seriously. What’s up with that?

We all chose to come here—maybe not necessarily as a first choice, but still, something drove everyone here to pick Boston College. We all sat through the same spiels about the importance of giving back and human kindness, and we were all challenged to represent our school with that same spirit.

Did someone miss the memo here? Am I wrong to think that the “real BC girl” should be someone who encompasses the ideals that St. Ignatius gave to us?

Of course, I’m not saying that I’m perfect. I’ll admit that in my moments of weakness I’m not the kindest of people. There will always be those people who grind my gears, and if I’m in a foul mood I’ll say some mean things. But there’s a difference between saying mean things and being a mean person.

I’d like to think that we’re all adults here. I’d like to think that I can go to class or take a walk around campus, get a milkshake at Lower or take my laundry upstairs without being scrutinized. Unfortunately, that doesn’t seem to be the case. And frankly, that sucks.

Like N*SYNC once said, it’s just about respect. Be nice, people. Do unto others as you would have done to you. Recognize that we all worked hard to get to the same place, and for the most part, we’re all doing some pretty great stuff. And if you can’t, take a note from Bridesmaids and “talk about me behind my back like a normal person.”

And by the way, I love my monogrammed towels. They are awesome.

11 Comments

  1. Cute attempt at trying to coerce angry, lonely BC biddies into being good people. Exactly the type of post a hater would write. #haters #hashtag #labordaywasmonthsago

    • Josh Jackson

      To get rid of anonymous commenting, you guys should have a Facebook sign in. That way, some douchebag named Andy won’t make a dumbass joke about a serious article.

  2. Get em Josh Jackson!

  3. She doesn’t even go here!

    • Nick Zippelli

      A friend of mine shared this so I actually don’t go to BC or even live in Boston. That said I’m absolutely certain that Ms. Lewis goes to BC. Why else would the BC paper allow her to publish an article that clearly states that she is in fact a student there.

  4. I’m sorry to hear that girls at our school are making people feel that way. Regardless of what institution we attend, we are all adults and should therefore know when to keep opinions to ourselves out of a concern for others. I do think, however, that this does not reflect the majority of girls that I have met during my time here. Rather, I like to believe that most of us are looking to make connections with others and not ward them off with such hateful comments and actions.

    • Sadly I have not had the same experience. The majority of young women I have encountered here have been, well, catty. Most of them just keep their opinions to themselves, but I could name a few that instigate a lot and cause unnecessary problems on campus. I don’t choose to associate with those kinds of girls, but the people who do are probably the same way. Just a bunch of snobby girls in their little friend circles snickering about everyone else.

  5. Anonymous, but another writer.

    I’m so, so sorry about this, Kate. You are a great person and I feel awful that you’re going through this. Girls are going to be catty everywhere. By the way, you can’t really quantify “mean.” There’s not that much of a difference between saying mean things and being a mean person. That line is sufficiently blurred and splitting hairs is kinda useless. I don’t think anyone can 100% be “the victim” and 100% “the bully.” There’s a bully who was bullied who was bullied and that list continues going on for eternity.

    I’m a girl, fully involved in the girl world, and I don’t think this article is a genuinely honest representation of ALL girls at BC (perhaps only a small-ish group). It’s slightly upsetting that someone on the internet could possibly stumble upon this and categorize every BC girl that way. Being picked on SUCKS so bad and people everywhere in every college sit through lectures about “giving back” and “human kindness”… and ignore them. It’s kinda like those D.A.R.E. campaigns or whatever that tried to tell us to stop drinking and smoking but we still do it anyway. The best thing you can do here is to just take the mean comments from where they’re coming. Jerks who use social media to genuinely pick on people are stupid, insecure, and cowardly, period. Don’t be too hard on yourself because it’s absolutely nothing you did.

    Anyway, as far as straight up journalism goes, your point is very (very.) clear. But, since this is a rather personal article and sometimes personal articles can dance on the line that separates productive/informative and whiny, I think you could have written this in a way that was less about pointing fingers/coining the whole “me” vs. “them”/victim vs. bully thing and more about YOUR perspective, how YOU specifically felt and how you can change yourself as well as help change others.

    I’m sorry for this long comment and I didn’t mean to insult you if I did, but I just wanted to offer a perspective. I know how scary it is to write articles like this and despite everything I do admire your bravery in putting yourself out there.

  6. @ Anonymous, but another writer. interesting that you were so set in your opinion, yet did not have the confidence to leave your name.

  7. Anonymous, but another writer- also known as Alexia

    That’s cool. Here’s my name.

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